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In his article How to Recover From Divorce, Garrett Coan, the Founder and Director of the Center for Creative Counseling, provides a list of "survival strategies" for people going through divorce. Number 20 on his list: "Create a ceremony to acknowledge your divorce."
In Japan, as in much of the world, divorce ceremonies are a new phenomenon. Their events borrow some traditions from the Japanese wedding ceremony, and are concluded with the joint smashing of the wedding ring. In the UK, divorce parties were even planned during the 2010 World Cup (note Cheryl Cole's recent celebration of her split from the Chelsea footballer Ashley Cole).
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Here in the U.S. divorce parties take many forms and are celebrated in venues of all types. In Las Vegas, divorcees can have relaxing spa days, movie-and-popcorn nights, or learn how to pole dance. Other ideas for an entertaining evening out include wine tastings or even drag shows. I've been making favors for divorce parties for several years now, and while I try to offer lots of design and theme ideas for divorce parties, I am always impressed by the theme ideas that my customers come up with. The photos here are some examples of their unique ideas for break-up and divorce parties.
While my original smooch design (see above left) was for weddings, and suggested that the recipient "kiss single life good-bye," the selection of Dirty Bastard lip balm and a quick wording change helped the new divorcée "kiss married life good-bye" and usher in her new life.
Another customer celebrated a "Free at Last" party (above right), with Foxy Lady lip balm favors and a footloose, sexy shoe design.
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When I first started helping people to celebrate divorces, I had mixed feelings about it. It felt dishonest, somehow, to support marriage through my work with bridal showers and bachelorette parties, and then work on divorce parties. Was I supporting divorce? Hiroki Terai, Japan's first professional "charisma divorce planner," describes the atmosphere at his divorce ceremonies: "People don’t know how to respond, whether they should clap or stay quiet." There is an awkwardness about this subject that many people experience.
But the more I read about divorce parties and ceremonies, the more I believe that they serve an important purpose in helping the newly divorced to leave that relationship and separation behind. The divorcée has to decide whether—and how—to celebrate the end of her marriage. There are certainly a huge number of theme (and favor!) ideas to choose from to make it a party to remember.
What do you think? Have you gone through a divorce? Did you have some kind of formal celebration of the event? Have you ever been to a divorce party? What do you think of the idea? Please share your thoughts!